for some reason people have been talking to me about relationships & dating a lot lately. sitting at the singles table doesn't bother me, never really has. i've never been the type of girl who has to have a boyfriend to know who she is, to feel complete, to function- and i thank God for that. i rarely date & i'm ok with that because i know exactly what i want. i'm picky and happy about it. don't get me wrong, sometimes i'll see happy couples & get a pain in my heart thinking about how nice that would be to have. i definitely want love, but i won't let it overtake my thoughts, my life.
family members sometimes wonder what's wrong with me because i'm always single. i try to explain, but i feel like they think i'm crazy. friends have criticized me before for not "putting myself out there in the dating world to give this great guy or that great guy a chance." i don't have to date around to figure out what i like- i KNOW. and if i don't have a connection with someone i'm not going to pretend like i do.
years ago i wrote out a list of the qualities i want in a significant other. i've been praying over them ever since & i believe God's going to send me someone. i've compromised a few things on my list before & been royally screwed by it- definitely learned my lesson. and i'm not talking about things like "he must have brown eyes & love kittens," but the core uncompromisable qualities. it's all about God's timing. maybe i haven't met the person i'm supposed to be with, maybe i have. i just know that when His time is right, it's going to be insanely awesome & i can't wait. but i will wait...because good things come to those who wait.
if you're single, go have fun & enjoy your life. don't sulk in this "poor me" mentality. use your time to love people & figure out God's will for this phase of your life. write out your list & pray over it. God is faithful & He will do it.
"...we must be prepared to wait on God's timing. His timing is precise, for He does things "at the very time" He has set. It is not for us to know His timing & in fact we cannot know it- we must wait for it. So take heart, dear child, when God requires you to wait. The One you wait for will not disappoint you. He will never be even 5 minutes behind "the appointed time."" Streams in the Desert
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